I was struck by the profound strength and stability underlying a grove of trees when a national forest ranger described the floods in the late 1800’s, caused by cutting down too many trees along the Hudson and Shenandoah Rivers at Harper’s Ferry. It’s all about the roots inter-woven and dense, holding the soil together. I’d never considered that before. It was an “aha moment”, as I connected the physical reality to the psychological one. No wonder we are stronger in numbers.
New Year’s Resolution solution
Why make resolutions? Are we just setting ourselves up for more stress with our expectations?
Resolution comes from the word, resolve. Maybe we should just “solve” our issues instead of re-solving them.
The solution may be in how we frame our goals and aspirations.
This year, let’s make it more fun!
Let your (re) solution be a template for your new year.
Progress comes from baby steps. Intend that each day is a little better than the day before.
Frame your resolution in a positive way:
- If it’s about eating, don’t think about denying yourself pleasure. Avoiding temptation takes too much energy. Instead, place your intention on loving what’s good for you. Convincing your self to prefer salads is more constructive than saying that you can’t have that luscious chunk of chocolate.
- If it’s about procrastinating, imagine yourself to be a master of time management. No one wants to be told to change, particularly those of us with authority issues!
Creating a new desire works better than denying an old one.
Old dogs can learn new tricks!
Just remember that the brain loves habit and it only takes repetition to create one.
May you find the Solution that makes your life more fun this year.
The Art of Heartitude.
Did I make that word up? It was on my mind as I surfaced from delicious deep sleep on the snow-crisp, cold morning of the newest year to date, 2018.
Heartitude: n., the state of having a heart-felt attitude; a feeling of love; an opening the heart chakra; use of love and compassion in decisions and relationships.
January 1, 2018. Wow.
I slept in this morning—because I could.
Designating January 1st as ‘my day”, I have been taking liberties with my personal choices —what to do, when and how. Freedom is an elixir. A good way to start a year, methinks.
Not in the brightest of moods?
Recently, a discussion group that I belong to posed the question: What have you done to bring joy into your life during times you don’t FEEL joyful?
I’d been wrestling with this lately because cold weather had me feeling over-dressed and frumpy—which in my experience, often leads to weight gain and poor body image. Maybe you can relate.
There must be as many strategies as there are people, but one that works for me is to—Dress the way I want to FEEL —and build on it from there.
Trying to stay good-natured is a challenge while you hurt!
Pain erodes your attitude; it’s difficult to ignore driving and nagging pain.
I too have some issues, so I’m sharing some of my personal strategies for dealing and alleviating the issue of sitting too long.
Do you sometimes feel that your head is too heavy and your neck is too tight to turn?
Remind your self to use your headrest and take advantage of the support. Here’s where a little “self-talk” comes in–be conscious of relaxing the neck muscles that you are not using when you rest your head against something.
In that moment, a release can make all the difference. Exhale the tension that has built up–really empty your lungs as you sit with your head agains the top of the couch or the backrest of your car–or wherever…
It only takes a few moments to change your situational discomfort. And the relief becomes worth the effort–believe me.
Don’t confuse stiffness with decrepitude. Turn on some music and dance a little–you’ll soon smooth out your moves and groove.
Just because we are stiff, does not necessarily mean that we are arthritic or “losing it”. When you move and stretch to music, you find a way to unlock those stiff, rigid muscles. Go ahead–try it–you’ll see.
Research shows that music stimulates motor cells (muscles) using a different part of the brain.
During WWI, patients who were shell-shocked and catatonic, began to move and even dance in ways the medical community would not say is possible when they heard familiar music.
Experiencing some polio-effects, I can relate. When I walk, I seem to have more power and movement possible when I’m grooving to my tunes.
With so much to do– getting ready for a trip, tying up loose ends at home, paying bills for when I’m gone, maintaining my busy work and grandparenting schedule– I could easily become overwhelmed. Instead, I’ve decided to SLOW. DOWN. TIME.
I use this technique often—and it never lets me down. It feels quite magical!
Peace signs in my eyes sometimes get in the way of my vision. For others, it maybe dollar signs. We all feel what’s important to us differently. There are as many ideologies as there are people to uphold them.
But can we have a society of love without unity?
Let’s face it, no matter how positive we are or how well we take care of ourselves, all days are not created equally.
We have ups and we have downs.
Change takes energy. On our up days, we have enough–we follow our plans–we behave (be have) in a way that supports our intentions.
But when we have low energy, we rely on habit. And if our habits are not good for us, we know it on some level and judge ourselves harshly. You know the routine–it’s a downward spiral that leads us in the wrong direction. Self-punishment is a poor reaction but when you feel bad about your self, you will behave badly–see how it goes?
What I propose is that we allow ourselves to take baby steps, recognizing progress as the goal and self-reward.